2017 was a crazy year! Can you believe it’s over? I can’t say 2017 was my favorite year, rather I cannot wait to say goodbye to 2017. There were so many hurdles and trials that left me exhausted, hopeless at times, frustrated, and desperate for a fresh start more times than not. I don’t know why this year felt harder than others, but I know it wasn’t just me. 2016 was a similar year as 2017 was for me. And, two years of the same hurdles and trials, I was just ready for a new year to start.

Despite the downfalls of 2017, there were plenty of positive things that happened this year.

  1. In terms of my job, I completed my first project that I oversaw from start to finish. It gave me more confidence in the work place and outside of the workplace. It meant that my dad trusted me enough to handle a multi-million dollar project on my own. And, that felt good to me, that he believed I had the basic skills to oversee this project.
  2. It’s been about a year and a half since I got Mia and I don’t know why I would do without her now. She is my best friend and when I have those moments where I feel hopeless at times, I love having this furry animal that cuddles up close to me. I won’t lie and say sometimes I want to pull my hair out because she drives me up a wall. But, she’s truly an incredible companion and so well-behaved. We also recently accomplished our first flight together and I can honestly say she did so well!
  3. I tried to be really present with my family this year. When we spend time together, I want to make a greater effort of being less on my phone, whether it’s texting or on social media, but just putting the phone aside to really be present with my family and spend quality time with them.
  4. I feel fortunate that I was able to travel as much as I did this year. I love being able to go to Europe and exploring new beautiful places. Some of the places I visited this year were Cinque Terre, Zermatt, Prague, Monaco, Carmel among some others.
  5. This year I have learned to stand my ground and be more confident in my decisions. I have learned that people will take advantage of you when it comes to business but you must be able to trust your gut and stand up for yourself. I found this to apply both in my work (blog and real estate career) and my personal life.

My 2018 Intentions

I recently came across this quote, which I will use as my intention for 2018 “Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach”.  Very often, life throws many curve balls at us and it’s up to us to decide how we approach them. 2017 taught me that no matter what curve ball comes my way, to keep pushing forward and doing the best to make the situation better.

  1. I want to make a bigger effort at celebrating small victories. I don’t give myself enough credit for small victories, I just oversee them as something that should have happened. My roommate often reminds me “mel, this is really exciting and you should be proud” but I quickly don’t give them enough credit.
  2. I need to continue to let things go that don’t serve a purpose or that hurt.  I am the type of person that will do one thing or several things to ensure someone’s happiness, but sometimes that leaves me a doormat. I’ve learned that I don’t want to be a doormat, who does? I can’t make everyone happy and some things or people aren’t worth the effort. Life is too short to please everyone and to wonder why you may not be good enough for them. Sometimes letting go is easier than hanging on.
  3. I can conquer anything I put my mine to. I have decided to compete in a bikini competition this year. It is by far the hardest challenge and intention I have set myself up to so far (I think). These next six months will challenge my ability to stay true and honest with myself and my coaches. I am really excited but really nervous all at the same time. I can’t wait to share this journey with you.
  4. Do more things that I love. The more time that I spend doing things that uplift my spirits and alight my soul, the happier I will feel about myself and my life. It will be a great way to people who share common interests, which can open up my social circles and dating life. After all, there is nothing more attractive than a woman who is passionate, strong, independent and in love with her life.
  5. Be open and fearless when it comes to love. I’ve struggled with this one ever since I let go of someone I loved very much. It wasn’t the right time for us at the time. I have given online dating more of a chance than I wished to do so in 2017, but it’s led me to feel more hopeless about relationships and love. This is one I struggle with but will continue to work on in 2018, and will continue to put myself out there and be open.

There are many other intentions that I can think of, but I think it’s important to stick to a fewer more realistic number. Otherwise, it seems as the year goes on, we lose motivation to stick to our intentions or often times we forget our intentions. With that, I will leave you with this. Happy New Year. Cheers.